Many times throughout the day I see women clamoring for attention. You may know some too. They feel the need to seek attention. Sadly, they don’t really care if it’s good or bad. It seems to be their way of filling a deficit in their lives.

As generations pass by it’s evident how the Baby Boomers, Gen X and Millennials all view themselves and how others view them as well. Early on we had the Baby Boomers. They were close to their parents and held accountable for their actions, they sat at the dinner table every night and discussed the verity of everyone’s day. Questions were asked and lessons were learned. Mom and dad preached modesty, wholesome ideals and it was expected to be followed. Children sought to please the family and would never dream of bringing shame to their family or the family name. Yes, there were the Marilyn’s  who pushed the envelope so to speak but for the most part following in mom or dads guidance was widely received.

Move forward to Generation  X who still has a need to follow directions from the authoritative parents but now feel the need to add a bit of a spice to their life. They push the envelope even more and branch out to points of rebellion insisting on doing life their way. Less and less of the modesty thing and more freedom ensues to fill some gaps.

Millennials seem to have their own way of thinking. Families are now mostly required to be two income households which forces a less watchful eye on the younger ones. Less mentor-ship, less watchful eyes of close parenting, and added pressures from magazines to look a certain way in order to be accepted by people and thinking less boundaries is so much better. These all equal more freedom to experience other spices of life. Less modesty and more immediate satisfaction.

Technology advances almost daily to account for these pleasures. Think about it, yesteryear we had beepers and waited for the call back vs today’s iPhone get everything now mentality. Society has grown into the “get it now” moments and with it impatience is bred and boundaries are diminished. Ladies are searching for ways to get more and more attention by selling themselves short hugely unaware of their true value and worth. Young men are supporting this behavior by seeking them out as well.

What happened to leaving something  for the imagination. Do yourself a favor and stop with the trolling of the boob shots. You can be elegant and reserved without being prudish! Level UP and will actually land the better guy you should be seeking in the first place. We need to get back to the basics and re-establish the early lessons once sought after. Gentlemen stop searching for the less clothing posts or learn turn away from it. Be the one who looks for the true lady and lift her up to become more than she thinks she can become.  It’s a two sided deal. A ventured partnership. Society needs both good young men and ladies to rise up and change those behaviors.

You yourself hold the key to filling those gaps. Dig deep and pull up the bootstraps whatever you need to do to be the one who learns to accept yourself as the best YOU that you can be!

You are VALUED and worth so much more. Never settle for less than you are worth. 

• Please note that each can enhance the other while utilizing their own strengths and weakness. Together we all can bring out the best in each other! 
• #ShineOn!